Ego vs Self Respect !

The above 2 words have entirely different meaning but the in the present scenario people tend to boast their false ego in the name of self respect.

Self respect is very important in life.My mother always tells me Manush (human being) means somebody who has Maan (self respect) and Hush(conscience)...therefore self respect should come before every other thing ..it is ur identity ,it is ur pride of being who u are and what u are....a person who has no self respect can never respect others...

Coming to ego,ego is a latin word which means “I” meaning identity.Well,by the definition of it,this is also an important aspect of life...ego is necessary but does ego means to be self centred? To only think about “me” and nobody else? The answer of course would be a big NO but we have become so

Opportunists that we mix up the two words in our day to day life the consequence of which is absolutely not pleasant.

Let us see two examples to understand this in a beter way:

Situation 1: We all have seen the 70 s classic movie Abhimaan wherein a star couple get married but soon after marriage problem creep in as the wife becomes more successful in her career than the husband...the husband starts behaving indiffrently towards the wife....This is his ego which is making him behave in that fashion...the “I” in him is so big that everybody else seems smaller to him....he cannot tolerate the fact that somebody is getting bigger than him.We all know the consequence was disastrous as their marriage had hit the rocks.

 Situation 2: There is a young couple,bright intelligent and successful in their respective careers.They love each other and decide to tie the knot. Both familes obect 1^st but they somehow convinc e their families. But the groom’s family demands heavy dowry.The groom tries to convince the bride that  if they want to be together her family has to pay the dowry as otherwise his family would object to the marriage. The girl doesn’t  accept this and denies to get married.

Here the girl’s self respect prevented her from accepting the condition set by the groom’s family .It is not because of her ego but because of self respect that she chose to stay away from her love rather than compromising to be with love!And this is undoubtedly appreciable.

But,seldom we deifferentiate between the two....in the name of self respect we go on piling up our false ego and invariably end up loosing many friends , acquaintances and breaking up relationships.

Every one of us should take a deep dive into our self and understand if we are mixing up our egoes in the name of self respect.

I think this simple realization can make us more approachable ,happy and satisfied in life.

Who am I

Who am I ? A wife, a daughter,a daughter in law,a sister or a woman who wants to fly high?
I have always taken my own decisions..fortunately or unfortunately my parents have never interfered in my decision making.Be it my decision to study biotechnology,be it to pursue my dream in my own field rather than jumping into an IT job,be it changing frequent jobs,be it changing location just to be with my loved one or be it resigning from job,,they have always relied on me and supported me...though this gives an immense sense of satisfaction but sometimes I just wish they had some more control over my decisions...I don't repent any of my decisions...because they are my own...but today I think was i right everytime? Is this what i have wanted all my life?
I have happily sacrificed so many opportunities for being near to people who matter the most to me...But somehow I feel I have not done justice to myself....the "me" who has so many dreams has somewhere died down...I was meant to be different..I was meant to follow my dreams, I was meant to be happy for myself..
Though outwardly I am satisfied from my life so far but still deep down inside i feel I could have done so many things..i could have followed my ambitions...
I am afraid that I,me ,myself is getting lost in the shadow of so many other layers of wife,daughter,daughter in law etc etc...
But still I feel I can pursue my dreams,I can follow my heart,I can fly high. May be not now,may be not today,may be some day where I need not think of any body or any thing before me,when only I will be important to me ahead of anything else....
I wish to see that day soon in my life :)

U & me ..In this beautiful world

Yes,beautiful world indeed....but only when u r with me.These lines may sound very cliched but they are so very true.

22^nd of July always takes me down memory lines and gives me a smile on my face...It was this day that I found the hapiness of my life...I know happiness cannot be found by a mere calender date but if I were to mark a calender date in my entire lifetime which is most remarkable definitely 22^nd July will fit the billl.

I was happy even before that...but I never understood what love means and what it holds for me...i never knew my life was going to change for better and Iwas never going to be alone in life again...

Nothing in this world gives more happiness than loving a person selflessly and being loved by someone in the same way.

Although officially 2^nd December would be our anniversary but for me 22^nd July comes before any other special day in our life.

It’s been 6 years I am with u and each day has been beautiful. It’s true we do have our share of fights but somebody said fights between loved ones tend to bring them closer.

On this very special day I just thank almighty who has made this possible and also pray to him to shower his blessings throughout our life.

I know there was no need for me to share this on FB but I just wanted to share my happiness with my buddies who have always been so very important to both of us!

                                                                                      

Can we bring back the past?

One life,many phases,hundreds of friends,thousands of memories....But how many of them are still in touch? In today’s world we say oh it’s so easy to be in touch...we have facebook,we have twitter and so on...but if we ask ourselves honestly ;how many true friends do we have? One,two or may be none....today’s competitive world has taught us to be fast and furious,to be edgy and smart..but at the same time it has taught us to be unforgiving, selfish and self centred.I was reading a status message in a friend’s update that it is very hard to let go....and this has become so true!

I can take examples from my own life where my so called “friends” became so competitive and self centred that they effortlessly forgot all the wonderful moments we shared together. They just want to remain ahead of each other in the race of life...a better job,better looks,better dresses,better status and in the attempt of doing so,we are loosing pace with ourselves. We are loosing our emotions and turning into mere stones....

But why have we become so unforgiving? How are we gaining from this kind of behaviour? Why can’t small things of life give us happiness? Why are we so jealous and self centred?

Well.... I don’t think any of us have the answers . The only thing we can do is go back into our past lives and think of the innocent and beautiful moments we shared with our loved ones,the unselfish attitude we had towards the society,the unconditional love we once shared with our friends .

Perhaps we all can try to be little more accomodating,a little more understanding,a little more sacrificing so that we do not loose out true friendship and love while climbing stairs of success and status in our busy lives!