It’s Now or Never!

Off late the only thing which has been making headlines is “Anna Hazare”. It’s delightful to see Indians ,irrespective of caste,creed or color come out in the streets and demanding a corruption free nation...It’s a revelation for us Indians which could have begun long back...but  its better now than never....

The facebook  is loaded with posts from people supporting the noble cause ....friends are on fast supporting the leader....But as I feel happy for my country a few thoughts cross my mind and I feel the sooner we get the answers for these we can wipe out out corruption from our country.

The word “ corruption” is the most used word in India off late....wherever we see we only see corruption or scam.... we find a Raja,a Kalmadi, a Kanimozhi,a Radia wherever we see....but have we delved into our conscience and asked ourselves who has created these greedy monsters? The answer lies within us....we know Raja and Kalmadi because the corruption associated with them runs into thousands of crore...but aren’t we all corrupt in our day to day living?

Aren’t we the same people who pay the traffic police who catches us for rash driving? Aren’t we the same people who bribe the peon to pass our file in govt offices? Aren’t we the same people who buy tickets in black to watch a movie? Aren’t we the same people who bribe the RTO to get a driving licence? Aren’t we the same people who pay huge capitation fees to get admission to enginnering/medical colleges? Aren’t we the same people who maintain good relation with our boss for a promotion? The list is endless..and we all are party to it..day after day....it is these small things which make us corrupt...are all of us sure that we wouldn’t have been corrupt had we been in places of Kalmadi and Raja?

It’s just that their corruption runs into millions and billions that we know about them and we protest against them...but are we not party to corruption everyday? Have we done anything to cleanse ourselves? Are we even aware that we are indulging ourselves into such activities?

Untill we clear ourselves from such activities and mentalities we cannot make our country corruption free.We may take out a protest march in support of Anna Hazare but who will cleanse us? Who will protest against us?

Today as the country is about to start a revolution let us take a pledge to wipe out corruption from our daily lives in our own little ways....

I am sure we will be successful....Jai Hind!

Alone,but not lost

 “ How long have you been away from home”? This question always makes us realize that its been ages we are not at home....not protected by our father ,not cared by our mother,not bullied by our siblings,not attached to our relatives,not communicating to our cousins,not attending any family functions and so on....

But as soon as this realization sinks in,there is always a contradictory feeling...Oh it’s not my choice that I am not at home...I am out to make a career,I am nout to be independent,I am out to make an identity for myself,I am out to make my parents proud of my achievements...And the moment we think this we somehow forget all the things we miss being not at home.

But again our heart asks,is not possible to get the best of both? To be at home and be successful,to be attached to my motherland and make my own identity? To play pranks with cousins and at the same time make everybody proud by our achievements?

And yet again,the mind tells “ no” its not possible.And then we have a self realization that being away from home has made me strong,has made me compassionate towards other,has made be understanding,has made me more humane,has made me independent,has given me the capacity to make my own decisions,has made me tough and has made me responsible.

It’s true I am alone but I am not lost! I have my paths clear..I know where to go and how...I am sure about the course of line my life’s gonna take..I am making my own destiny!

May be this is what makes us stronger enough to stay away from closed ones for so long,to stay focussed in our lives.

But every morning we wish to get a cup of tea from our mother’s hand,in every danger we wish our father was there with us to hold our hands,in holi and Diwali we wish our cousins were there with us,every night we wish our siblings were there to fight with us....and in every moment we wish we were in our hometown !

Ego vs Self Respect !

The above 2 words have entirely different meaning but the in the present scenario people tend to boast their false ego in the name of self respect.

Self respect is very important in life.My mother always tells me Manush (human being) means somebody who has Maan (self respect) and Hush(conscience)...therefore self respect should come before every other thing ..it is ur identity ,it is ur pride of being who u are and what u are....a person who has no self respect can never respect others...

Coming to ego,ego is a latin word which means “I” meaning identity.Well,by the definition of it,this is also an important aspect of life...ego is necessary but does ego means to be self centred? To only think about “me” and nobody else? The answer of course would be a big NO but we have become so

Opportunists that we mix up the two words in our day to day life the consequence of which is absolutely not pleasant.

Let us see two examples to understand this in a beter way:

Situation 1: We all have seen the 70 s classic movie Abhimaan wherein a star couple get married but soon after marriage problem creep in as the wife becomes more successful in her career than the husband...the husband starts behaving indiffrently towards the wife....This is his ego which is making him behave in that fashion...the “I” in him is so big that everybody else seems smaller to him....he cannot tolerate the fact that somebody is getting bigger than him.We all know the consequence was disastrous as their marriage had hit the rocks.

 Situation 2: There is a young couple,bright intelligent and successful in their respective careers.They love each other and decide to tie the knot. Both familes obect 1^st but they somehow convinc e their families. But the groom’s family demands heavy dowry.The groom tries to convince the bride that  if they want to be together her family has to pay the dowry as otherwise his family would object to the marriage. The girl doesn’t  accept this and denies to get married.

Here the girl’s self respect prevented her from accepting the condition set by the groom’s family .It is not because of her ego but because of self respect that she chose to stay away from her love rather than compromising to be with love!And this is undoubtedly appreciable.

But,seldom we deifferentiate between the two....in the name of self respect we go on piling up our false ego and invariably end up loosing many friends , acquaintances and breaking up relationships.

Every one of us should take a deep dive into our self and understand if we are mixing up our egoes in the name of self respect.

I think this simple realization can make us more approachable ,happy and satisfied in life.

Who am I

Who am I ? A wife, a daughter,a daughter in law,a sister or a woman who wants to fly high?
I have always taken my own decisions..fortunately or unfortunately my parents have never interfered in my decision making.Be it my decision to study biotechnology,be it to pursue my dream in my own field rather than jumping into an IT job,be it changing frequent jobs,be it changing location just to be with my loved one or be it resigning from job,,they have always relied on me and supported me...though this gives an immense sense of satisfaction but sometimes I just wish they had some more control over my decisions...I don't repent any of my decisions...because they are my own...but today I think was i right everytime? Is this what i have wanted all my life?
I have happily sacrificed so many opportunities for being near to people who matter the most to me...But somehow I feel I have not done justice to myself....the "me" who has so many dreams has somewhere died down...I was meant to be different..I was meant to follow my dreams, I was meant to be happy for myself..
Though outwardly I am satisfied from my life so far but still deep down inside i feel I could have done so many things..i could have followed my ambitions...
I am afraid that I,me ,myself is getting lost in the shadow of so many other layers of wife,daughter,daughter in law etc etc...
But still I feel I can pursue my dreams,I can follow my heart,I can fly high. May be not now,may be not today,may be some day where I need not think of any body or any thing before me,when only I will be important to me ahead of anything else....
I wish to see that day soon in my life :)

U & me ..In this beautiful world

Yes,beautiful world indeed....but only when u r with me.These lines may sound very cliched but they are so very true.

22^nd of July always takes me down memory lines and gives me a smile on my face...It was this day that I found the hapiness of my life...I know happiness cannot be found by a mere calender date but if I were to mark a calender date in my entire lifetime which is most remarkable definitely 22^nd July will fit the billl.

I was happy even before that...but I never understood what love means and what it holds for me...i never knew my life was going to change for better and Iwas never going to be alone in life again...

Nothing in this world gives more happiness than loving a person selflessly and being loved by someone in the same way.

Although officially 2^nd December would be our anniversary but for me 22^nd July comes before any other special day in our life.

It’s been 6 years I am with u and each day has been beautiful. It’s true we do have our share of fights but somebody said fights between loved ones tend to bring them closer.

On this very special day I just thank almighty who has made this possible and also pray to him to shower his blessings throughout our life.

I know there was no need for me to share this on FB but I just wanted to share my happiness with my buddies who have always been so very important to both of us!

                                                                                      

Can we bring back the past?

One life,many phases,hundreds of friends,thousands of memories....But how many of them are still in touch? In today’s world we say oh it’s so easy to be in touch...we have facebook,we have twitter and so on...but if we ask ourselves honestly ;how many true friends do we have? One,two or may be none....today’s competitive world has taught us to be fast and furious,to be edgy and smart..but at the same time it has taught us to be unforgiving, selfish and self centred.I was reading a status message in a friend’s update that it is very hard to let go....and this has become so true!

I can take examples from my own life where my so called “friends” became so competitive and self centred that they effortlessly forgot all the wonderful moments we shared together. They just want to remain ahead of each other in the race of life...a better job,better looks,better dresses,better status and in the attempt of doing so,we are loosing pace with ourselves. We are loosing our emotions and turning into mere stones....

But why have we become so unforgiving? How are we gaining from this kind of behaviour? Why can’t small things of life give us happiness? Why are we so jealous and self centred?

Well.... I don’t think any of us have the answers . The only thing we can do is go back into our past lives and think of the innocent and beautiful moments we shared with our loved ones,the unselfish attitude we had towards the society,the unconditional love we once shared with our friends .

Perhaps we all can try to be little more accomodating,a little more understanding,a little more sacrificing so that we do not loose out true friendship and love while climbing stairs of success and status in our busy lives!